Does a civil divorce sound like a distant dream? If you are like most divorced couples, you both have a lot of anger and hurt to sort through. It can be difficult to stand in the same room as your former spouse without those heated feelings returning. It is easy to fall into a bad habit of fights and pettiness. If you want to make your divorce more amicable, however, Forbes has a few suggestions. 

First, be sure that this is the right decision. The divorce is final and so you should have no thoughts that you might rekindle the relationship. Instead, be positive that this is the decision that you need to make for yourself. If you think that through the help of professionals you can work through your struggles together, then you may want to pause the divorce proceedings. 

However, if you are sure this is the best decision, then you should always move forward. Try to maintain a mutual respect. Do not try to be the winner of your divorce at all costs. Keep your former spouse and your family’s thoughts and feelings in mind. Mutual respect and civilities can go a long way in the proceedings. 

Likewise, with your mutual respect, you should both have a common goal. Ideally, the two of you want a future that is peaceful and without stress. If the two of you want to come to a resolution peacefully, then you can work together to ensure that it happens. Your common goal can assist you in your focus. Work on your shared vision instead of engaging in a contentious divorce.