There are many stories of terrible divorces full of revenge and hostility. Divorce is an emotional event, but it doesn’t have to be a horrible experience. It is possible for a couple to end their marriage amicably while still maintaining a positive relationship or even a true friendship. This is especially important when there are children involved. There are a few tips a Connecticut couple can follow to stay on good terms while dissolving their legal union.

First, a divorcing couple should openly and honestly discuss the actions that led to the separation. When done with a positive attitude and without finger-pointing, this will help the couple understand what went wrong and will allow them to accept their situation so they can move forward in a positive manner. Both parties must be honest and accepting of their own mistakes. This will allow the second step, which is to accept one’s own shortcomings and work to correct them. This will have a positive impact on the current relationship as well as future relationships.

The third helpful tip for divorcing couples is to learn how to cooperate and compromise. The settlement process doesn’t have to be long and tedious. Accepting that compromises have to be made will help the process move along while stubbornness will only complicate matters and will lead to hostility and resentment. Cooperation is imperative in all decisions regarding children. Parents must work together to provide a happy, stable environment for their children, putting their welfare above all else.

Divorcing couples must work to maintain a balance between generosity and fairness. Being generous with the other spouse during the settlement process will help keep the couple on good terms and will help promote a friendship that survives the divorce. Both parties must be realistic about their own needs, however, and must make sure to prepare for their own post-divorce lives. This time is often financially challenging, so preparation for the economic changes is imperative to prevent resentment later on.

A final and extremely important tip for divorcing couples is to obtain the services of an experienced divorce lawyer. An attorney knowledgeable in Connecticut divorce laws can be a priceless asset. The attorney can provide guidance through the entire process, helping to keep the focus where it should be, and providing insight and advice to make the settlement quick and amicable.