Facing divorce with children is rarely easy, especially if your children enjoy a positive relationship with both parents. For many parents, the difficulty of not knowing how to approach the matter with their children serves to postpone divorce and makes it that much more difficult than it has to be when the time does eventually come to discuss it with the children.
As little as 40 years ago, a couple splitting up was talked about it hush-hush tones. Today, albeit sadly, divorce is pretty common and doesn't have the stigma attached to it like it once did. In fact, there are some people -- in Connecticut as well -- who actually celebrate their new-found freedom by having a divorce party. It can also be a way for them to pay homage to the marriage, no matter how long it lasted.
It doesn't matter how old children are, when their parents split up -- it's hard and it hurts. Divorce of parents is something Connecticut children, along with all kids, may carry with them their entire lives. In fact, the author of a book about adult children of divorce says she was shocked to learn, during her research, that many children carry that pain into adulthood even if their parents had so-called good divorces.
Giving divorce news to children can be heartbreaking. But as difficult as that is likely to be, it's important that both parents in Connecticut to share the burden together even if they find it nearly impossible to be in the same room with each other. Having both parents tell them about the divorce is what's best for the children. Telling them plainly and simply and without malice so they will understand is the best bet. Simply saying that mom and dad can't live in the same house anymore may be all that's needed for a child to get it.
Children often bear the heaviest stress when their parents split up. Divorce is neither pleasant nor easy for any family members who are involved. But there may be things Connecticut parents can do to make the transition to living life in two households easier for kids. Helping children to adjust may also help parents to do the same for themselves.
Leaving a child at home alone may make a parent's heart race. Family law rules in Connecticut and other states make it clear that there is an appropriate age to leave children at home alone for short periods of time. Authorities in all areas agree that kids age 7 or younger should never be left alone and always need supervision. In most other respects much hinges on the maturity level of the child(ren).
Losing a parent is devastating to a child. But when that parent is the custodial parent according to a child custody agreement coming out of a divorce, it can be even more life-altering for a child in many ways. The law in Connecticut has proper procedures in place when it comes to who will take on the caregiver role of children who lose the parent with whom they were living. In many cases, that role reverts to a noncustodial parent, grandparents or other relatives.