Making the decision to end your marriage probably required a great deal of thought. Once you made the decision, you may have reacted as other Connecticut residents have in the past, and your fight or flight instincts told you to rush into the divorce process in order to move on as quickly as possible. However, jumping head long into the process without any preparation could cost you in the future.
It may be beneficial to slow down and take stock of the situation first. You may be one of the many Connecticut couples who do not relish the thought of battling it out in court. Fortunately, you can choose another, less contentious (and expensive) path. Mediation and collaborative law have increased in popularity in recent years to resolve divorce issues.
Both of these methods allow you and your spouse to retain control over the process and your settlement agreement. This can be especially useful if you have children since you can create a parenting plan that best suits the whole family. You can divide your marital estate any way the two of you wish. As long as your agreement does not put one of you at an unfair advantage and the children's best interests are represented, the court will more than likely approve the agreement.
By not rushing into court, you and your soon-to-be former spouse can take a step back and decide how the two of you want your divorce to proceed. Even though it might not always be a smooth process, it would more than likely be more rewarding than the alternative. You can create a settlement, including a parenting plan, that both of you can be satisfied with and, therefore, more willing to adhere to after the divorce is final.